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Hey y'all, it's Tanja Andersen, and today we're diving into something that's close to my heart – the journey of conquering the mirror demon. We all know we've got a past, right? We've got darkness and light, tangled up in our minds, souls, and bodies. It's messy, it's beautiful, and it's what makes us human.

“CONQUER THE MIRROR DEMON” is about more than just facing that inner demon; it's about looking it square in the eye and saying, “Hey there, I see you. I accept you. I love you.” As a lecturer, I'm all about growth, knowledge, and transformation. But let me tell you, the most profound evolution happens when we turn that lens inward.

This whole idea of “CONQUER THE MIRROR DEMON” is for the brave souls who understand that our past, our shadows, and our demons are part of who we are. It's about being grateful for them because, believe it or not, we're better individuals with them along for the ride.

To take on this journey, we need some real honesty, authenticity, curiosity, and intimacy. And let's not forget an unstoppable spirit and the guts to push some boundaries. It's about digging into our habits, lifestyle, beliefs, and history. It's in that deep dive that we find true freedom—the kind that comes from embracing our dark emotions and bringing some light to them.

So, grab a cup of coffee, get comfy, and let's dive into this transformative journey together. It's time to embrace the messy, beautiful you.

I started writing my book as soon as I got back from Guatemala. This book became the voice I needed when I was 27, realizing for the first time that I was suffering. At 27, I chose to take ownership of my life and find where I belonged in the world. Today, on December 19th, I've decided to fully commit to this book.

It's a book I needed throughout my self-development and one I still need today on days when I confront feelings of insecurity, playing the victim, shame, being misunderstood, and wounded. I want to share it with you because my journey is a light in the darkness we choose to inflict upon ourselves.

Over the past three days, maybe longer, I've been suppressing a lot inside me, and it has surfaced today. It's incredibly vulnerable to open my heart, especially when I see my inner child. Many ask me, “Why won't you become a mother? When will you have your own children?” And today, it hits me—I already feel like a mother. I am a mother in my life to my inner self.

I've worked on healing my past for the last 10 years—rape trauma, suicidal thoughts, loss, violence, lies, infidelity, emotional eating, sugar addiction, self-harm, and a slew of other challenges. I've been asked why I don't want to have children, and today I realize I already am a mother. I'm a mother to my inner child, suffering in pain, sorrow, fear, and anger.

My belief that I am a mother to many women's inner children, those who suffer in pain, seeking a voice to speak their truth, is confirmed in 2023 when I finally experience freedom in embracing my little girl. I feel, experience, and believe that I am the mother to many women's inner children, those who suffer in pain and seek a voice to speak their truth.

I believe we all have the right to a life that is alive, meaningful, challenging us to grow, and unfolding our abilities as human beings. It's something I'm only experiencing at 36. I know some people will never experience joy and surprise

. They'll die as children. When do we truly become adults? Congratulations, Tanja, you're on the path to becoming an adult, my psychiatrist told me in my 30s. We only become adults when we start working on our childhood, acknowledging, accepting, being grateful, forgiving, and creating new habits, emotions, meanings, fulfilling stories. Some go to the grave as children.

I've always said I didn't want to be a mother and pass on my hatred, pain, and oppressive beliefs as a suppressive story to a little child and then give my inner child to a child. I wanted to be whole and proudly say, “I chose my past, and I own it.” I wanted to come from a place of greatness and say, “I would do it all again; I wouldn't change a thing in my past.” And that's where I am today.

So, what now, Tanja? What about becoming a mother? I feel like I'm already a mother; I am my own loving mother, and I am fulfilled. In 2024, I will collaborate with a book coach to write my book based on my journey from living with demons, facing them, loving them, and finding little Tanja in the process.

The book will be my salvation, and if I don't write it, the consequences will be destruction, violence, and suicide. The book is the story of a choice, the power of choice, and my journey to find my way. I am committed to healing myself, loving myself, and loving being in my own body. I've been afraid most of my life, but today, fear is my driving force, and it's a choice you can make.

Together with my vibrant inner child, I look forward to taking you on our journey. We hope we can be your answer to the life you want to create.

“My reality is not the reality”
LOVE & CONQUER, Tanja Andersen ❤😈